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Metaphors for NLP & Teaching

156. Buddha and the Gift

One day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. ""You have no right teaching others,"" he shouted. ""You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!""

The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, ""Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?""
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, ""It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.""

The Buddha smiled and said, ""That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.""

Main Uses: : State Management, Behavioural Flexibility
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Submitted By: Brian
Source: Traditional

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  1. Sarah

    Hello Dr. Cullen,

    What a great list of metaphors! Thank you for creating this great resource for people to use freely. I was wondering if there would be any way to have each metaphor page set up with a link that says "printable version", or something similar, allowing for easy printing of a particular metaphor?

    Thanks again for setting this up. It is a really useful resource not only for me, but for my students as well.

    All the best to you,

    SJ Marubay

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